Students submitted relationship questions in the student cafe recently.

Students submitted relationship questions in the student cafeteria the week before Valentine’s Day. We divided them up and had students from the Morton Pony Express News, ChatGPT, and school counselors answer them. These are the answers we got.

Pony Express News staff answered these questions:

My partner and I argue a lot, but nothing extreme. How do I know if this is normal or if it’s becoming toxic?

Arguing with your partner is usually normal, but it really depends on what you’re arguing about. It’s only toxic if it’s about things that make you who you are. If it’s something about your personality that does no harm, it’s a sign of toxicity. If it’s about the people they hang out with or you hang out with, and they’re good influences, it’s a sign of jealousy and is most likely to become toxic. But if it’s over simple issues, it’s normal. Healthy relationships argue because it’s part of communicating; not every relationship is perfect.

Is it actually possible to stay friends with an ex, or does it always end badly?

No, it is not possible to stay friends with an ex because it will usually end up causing relationship problems. Let’s face it, a new partner won’t be able to deal with it. They’ll get jealous due to it ending up looking bad in the future because this is really looked down upon in a relationship.

What should I do if my friends don’t like the person I’m dating, but I really do?

If your friends don’t like the person you’re dating, chances are they aren’t the right fit for you, or you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd. But most likely, they don’t like the kind of person you’re dating and might think they are bad for you.

How much texting is normal in a relationship? Is it weird if we don’t talk all day?

The normal amount of texting in a relationship is texting every day, but not talking for a day could be normal depending on the person’s past relationships or maybe that is just the way they are. If you don’t like not texting for a day, I suggest you talk with them. But too much texting could lead to fewer topics.

My partner gets jealous when I hang out with other people. Is that a red flag or just caring too much?

Your partner getting jealous when you hang out with your friends is normal in a relationship, although it could lead to a red flag because it can lead to them becoming manipulative.

These questions were answered by ChatGPT:

Is homosexuality a sin?

It depends on your religion. If you are Hindu or Buddhist, then it may be considered a sin.

How do you manage dating and personal life/personal space?

Be emotionally honest. Share your feelings, values, and experiences in a respectful way.

How do you deal with feeling lonely around Valentine’s Day when it seems like everyone else is in a relationship?

Think about it like this: Valentine’s Day isn’t a life deadline. Being single doesn’t mean you’re behind.

How do you break up with someone without hurting them or starting rumors?

Keep it simple because long explanations can hurt more, and don’t tell other people personal details.

How do you know if you’re actually ready for a relationship?

You are ready for a relationship if you can communicate honestly and listen to someone else’s feelings.

These questions were answered by staff:

Is it OK to be 18, still in high school, and dating a 21-year-old?

I think that although it is legal, it’s not appropriate.

Can an 18-year-old date a 15-year-old, or is that crossing a line?

I believe that is not appropriate.

Is it a red flag if my girl freaks out whenever I reach for her phone?

I think it would be something concerning and something to have a conversation about.

How can you develop heartfelt and intimate connections without sexual activity?

Talking about each other’s interests, background, life experiences, and going out and doing fun activities that each person likes can strengthen the bond.

Should my BF have a say in what I wear?

On some occasions, yes, I believe they could have a say, as sometimes they might think your outfit does not fit the place you are going to.

Is it valid to ask for Instagram first?

Nowadays, I believe it is reasonable, as people usually open up more online rather than in person, so you get to know the other person better.

Why does my BF have his Instagram and messages locked (with a passcode)?

I think it is weird to have your Instagram or messages locked with an extra passcode.