Yelling doesn’t work on us

Angel Gonzalez, reporter

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“Getting mad at your child isn’t going to change the behavior,” said Dr. Carla Naumburg, a clinical social worker and author of parenting books. “When you get angry, your attention is on the conflict instead of figuring out a solution to the problem.” This shows that anger doesn’t solve anything, approaching things in a calm manner is the best way to resolve issues. Some benefits of the opposing side include showing dominance in showing who’s in charge.

At some point, most parents feel as if their teenager is acting in ways to intentionally make them angry. But experts say that the interaction is often more about the way the parent responds than about the teenager’s behavior. In a classroom out of 17 people at least 7 of the students have pushed their own parents’ anger. But the remaining 10 students claim that they have not pushed their parent’s buttons.

If you do yell at your teen, Dr. Naumburg recommended apologizing. “Some parents worry that apologizing will undermine their authority, but that isn’t true,” she said. “It’s a respectful way to be in a relationship and it’s modeling behavior that we want our kids to do — take responsibility for their actions.” This is another quote that proves that yelling isn’t a solution to problems. Most of the time when the parent yells at their child the child wants to fight back to stand their ground.

In conclusion, yelling isn’t the best way to consult children as shown by the quotes above. In the community nowadays, parents are no longer disciplining their children, so the children are taking over their lives, so they get what they want. The best way to resolve problems is to talk to your child in a calm state in order to get your point across.

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